Hello loyal readers. hope all is well. In case you were wondering, I am doing exceptionally well. why you ask? well LET ME TELL YOU, recently i had the pleasure of doing some mindfulness exercises instead of my regular lecture. I believe that this was one of the most relaxing, soul inspiring, spirit-lifting experience i have had in a very long time. This experiment, (as i like to call it; profs like to experiment different techniques with students), was so moving that i decided to write about patients and the affect being patient has on clients and coworkers in the newspaper for work. I wrote about how to be patient and pick your battles. I wrote alot of other crap that really isnt important..however; i would like to share the tips with you all. Maybe, i will be able to expereiment this mindfullness exersice with you? I probably will, you know me always expereimenting lol. anyways, here are the tips I created, ENJOY!!! :)
(keep in mind that this is geared more for tutors of adult literacy, but it is very possible to apply these in your everyday life..also, this is not the final copy, im just getting tired so i'm going to sleep and leaving it this way lol. the edited version will be submitted at work but not here. just read the thing and dont complain. lol)
Figure out what triggers you.
What things trigger you to lose your patience? How often do these things trigger you? Think about these things and write them down. Reflect on why these things trigger you. Can you do something to prevent them? Write down possible ways to effectively address these triggers without harming those around you. Being aware of what ‘sets you off’ can be part of the healing process.
Don’t forget to breathe.
When you know that you are about to lose you patients and you think that you are at the point of no return shut your eyes. Take a deep breath. Slowly count to ten. Take the time out to gather your thoughts and remember what is important. Sometimes we loose focus on what is really important. Is what you’re losing your patients for really worth it? Is there another way you can approach this situation? Breathe in, breathe out.
Everything takes time.
Remember that nothing in this world comes easy. Everyone works at a different pace and you cannot rush anyone who does not want to be rushed. Everything takes time. Again, you have to remember what‘s important and if a situation can be avoided. Nothing good happens right away and you have to remember that when you expectations are not reached you may lose patients.
“Rome wasn’t built in a day”-Proverb
Take a time out.
Even five minutes can make a huge difference. Take this time beforehand to calm down, visualize how to effectively handle a situation that may occurs and if applicable; address it as tastefully as possible. Ask yourself: what am I going to say? What will the other person say? What will be outcome of the situation?
Live, love, laugh, learn and teach.
It’s not the end of the world. Sometimes laughter is the best medicine. Often people get too caught up with things that could happen in their life and they forget about life’s most important things. Loving and laughing with each other can be good for effective communication and also great for the soul. No one is perfect and there is always room for improvement. Do not get frustrated because something has not reached your expectations. Instead, think of ways to change it if you desire or think of how you can deal with this.
Keep practising
Practice makes perfect. Having patience is not always the easiest thing. But always remember that it usually will have positive results in the end. The more you practice being patient the more good you will see happening. If you are patient with one person, that person may be patient with someone else and so one. This positive chain reaction can lead to having a healthier community.
Note: A very wise person once told me that patience is a virtue. In life, I often struggled to understand the true meaning behinds these wise words. As time passed by, and I grew older with maturity, wisdom and knowledge; I began to understand what patience really means. I began to understand that there is a reaction for every action. When I found that someone was not patient with me, I could see that characteristic reflected in me onto someone else and vice versa.
"Patience is counting down without blasting off."
Author Unknown,
"The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg - not by smashing it." Arnold Glasow.
